Do you ever sit and think about where you will be in 5, 10, 20 or even 50 years? Can you picture where you hope you will be and what kind of life you will be living? You have probably done this. But I am curious, have you ever sat and thought about what kind of person you want to be in life? How you want to represent yourself and how your mental and emotional state will be?
This tends to not be such a focus for most people, as we find ourselves dreaming of things we want and experiences we want to have.
For some reason, we don’t make what kind of person we want to be, a dream to work towards. We forget the importance of ongoing self-care and that it could actually play a big part in where we will end up many years from now.
Maybe if we were in the habit of working on ourselves throughout our lives, then it would be easier to achieve our dreams and goals and to be more aware of how to overcome the circumstances that life brings.
As much as you might spend time working on your self-esteem now if you don’t learn how to nurture it throughout your lifetime, then you run into the likelihood of damaging it again.
I don’t want you to end up looking back on your life and seeing only hurt and damage. I want you to have the knowledge you need to nurture your self-esteem throughout your life so that you are more likely to achieve your goals and see your dreams become a reality. I want you to be able to live comfortably within your self, in your values and worth.
I want you to see yourself the way that I do. Strong, brave and capable of great things.
In this final post from my How To Improve Your Self Esteem Blog Series, I want to talk about what it looks like to nurture your self-esteem throughout your life.
How do you really know how well you are dealing with your life without asking yourself? If your loved ones aren’t saying anything to you or you aren’t doing scheduled check-ins, how do you know if you are in a healthy state?
As much as you might think you are doing okay, you can’t really know unless you have a more serious situation come about that challenges you. Maybe you are doing okay and you work through the circumstances alright and still intact. But what happens when, if you thought you were okay, these challenges arose and you realized that you couldn’t handle them and that you weren’t in the mental state that you thought you were?
This is a situation that you want to avoid as best as you can, and the answer is quite easy.
Scheduled check-ins can help save you from heading down the wrong path. They can help you to see what is currently in your life that is not the best thing for you. You can make the choice to spend a little time, periodically, that could save you a lot of heartaches and mental strain.
How To Do A Self-Care Check-in
You know yourself best. You know your starting place, your story and how you got to where you are now. How has your self-esteem been up until now? Are you fairly positive and spend time practising some self-care? Or is your life filled with strain, anxiety, unfortunate circumstances that cause you to break down a little easier than others?
Whatever the case, it’s okay, no judgment here either side. But I want you to take a look at how your mental health and self-esteem has been up till now as that will give you an idea of how regularly you need to do check-ins.
If you find that you are fairly balanced already in these areas, then maybe a check-in every 6 months to a year is a good amount of time for you to go in between check-ins. But if you are already dealing with mental health struggles and a low self-esteem, then I would highly recommend scheduling check-ins more often, such as every 2-weeks to a month. This may sound like a lot of check-ins in a short amount of time, but stress can build up quickly if we aren’t dealing with it in a healthy way, and a lot can happen in a short period. Even if it’s more regular for now that you check-in with yourself until you have reached a more stable place.
Questions To Ask Yourself
Here is a list of questions that I recommend you ask yourself to see how you are doing with your mental health and self-esteem.
Please answer YES or NO to the following questions:
- Is there anything in my life right now that is causing me grief?
- Am I suffering from any mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, Acute Stress, BiPolar, Anorexia, bulimia, at this time in my life?
- Am I feeling like I don’t have enough time in a day?
- Has a significant circumstance happened recently such as the death of a loved one, a relationship ending, a job loss, etc, that could be adding stress to my life?
- Am I comparing myself to other people in an obsessive sort of way?
- Am I feeling withdrawn from the world and uninterested in doing activities?
- Am I losing patience more often or more emotional than usual?
- Am I having sleeping issues such as insomnia, frequent bad dreams, excessive sleep?
- Am I partaking in recreational drugs?
- Am I suffering from body pain and/or weakness?
- Do I have bad eating habits?
If you can answer yes to any of the questions below then it’s time for you to look at these areas in your life and make a change to better your mental health and self-esteem.
If you answered yes to 5 or more of these questions then I recommend that you please talk to a doctor.
Throughout the last four posts in this series, I have given you many examples and suggestions on ways to truly improve your self-esteem in order to create healing in your life. For your self-esteem to remain high, it is important to work through these ways of practising self-care and truly nurturing it on a daily basis.
In case you need a little reminder of the main self-care practices, here they are for you again.
- Always seek to grow and heal through dealing with the pain of your past.
- Talk about where you have been hurt and how it had affected your life by confronting your fears.
- Expose any bad habits that have been created through your pain.
- Understand the truth behind the lies that you have believed from the unfortunate circumstances in your journey.
Taking The Right Steps:
- Know your worth by how you truly feel about yourself in your heart.
- Learn to forgive those that hurt you so that you can truly let go of the pain and move on with your life.
- Change negative self-talk that you have defined yourself by. Give yourself positive affirming words that lift you up and remind you of your worth.
- Create good habits through things that you enjoy, that make you feel good and inspire you.
- Spend time with you, learn to make you time a priority so that you have the strength to deal with everything else.
Be An Example:
- Treat others in the way that you wish to be treated and remember that most people have good intentions.
- Share love by giving yourself to others. Show you care by finding ways to lift up someone’s day and help them to feel loved.
- Be open about the circumstances in your life that you have overcome. Share your story so that others may be inspired and feel supported in their struggles.
Focus In The Right Places:
- Have a support network of people that can surround you and lift you up when you are going through challenging times. Ask them to hold you accountable so that you can further grow in your self-esteem walk.
- Learn to dream about your future. Plan a life that you would love to have and goals that you wish to accomplish so that you feel motivated about your life.
- Find positive role models that you can be inspired about and that make you feel good about your body and mind.
30 Day Challenge
Now that you have walked through all of the steps with me on how to improve your self-esteem and to start living a more happy and fulfilling life, I want to challenge you to start changing yourself for the better, starting today!
I know that you are ready to make the commitment to putting your health as a top priority, and lovely, I am SO excited for you!
By the time you get going, you will start feeling so good that you will not want to stop. It feels good to make time for yourself and to start healing for good.
In order to help you kick-start this new journey into high gear, I have created a FREE 30 Day Self Esteem Building Checklist for you to challenge yourself to walk through!
I have created it as a download for you so that you can use it again and again if you choose to check-in periodically by challenging yourself, or you can pass it along to someone else who can use a little self-esteem boost.
I have also included some Printable Motivational Quotes for you to help remind yourself of your worth along the way.
To get your FREE PDF Download click HERE:
Thank you for taking time to reading this blog series and I know you will not regret taking the time to improve your self-esteem.
Please remember that 85% of people suffer from low self-esteem so I am sure you know someone who could use this blog series in their life.
and let me know how this series has helped you on your self-esteem journey.
If you have not read the first 4 parts of this blog series then you can through the links below!
Learn how to uncover the truth about your self-esteem, where you have been hurt in the past, discovering bad habits and understanding the truth behind your fears.
Read more HERE: How To Improve Your Self Esteem | Blog Series Part 1
Learn the right steps you need to take in order to improve your self-esteem by knowing your worth, learning to forgive, changing your narrative, creating good habits and doing things for yourself.
Read more HERE: Taking The Right Steps | Self Esteem Blog Series Part 2
Learn how to be a positive example to others by doing unto others, sharing love and being open about who you are.
Read more HERE: How To Be An Example | Self Esteem Blog Series Part 3
Learn about the importance of self-esteem and how to keep your eyes in the right place by having a support network, learning to dream about your future, and having positive role models.